After a traumatic experience, there are certain mental health tasks that need consideration. Eyewitnesses, family members, and children across the country need special counseling and attention. What follows is a survival guide for dealing with the emotional fall-out from such a tragedy.
After the immediate shock wears off, the emotional after-effects begin to set in. There are some normal emotional reactions to extreme situations that you should know about. (Usually these feelings do not last long, but if they continue for more than a week, then seek out resources available in your area.) You may notice extreme sadness, feelings of disbelief, irritability and anger, fatigue, inability to sleep, loss of appetite, and headaches or nausea.
Eyewitnesses of a tragedy and even those living in the same city or state usually have at least one of these reactions. The first step in helping your emotional health is to acknowledge your feelings to another person. It is okay to rely on others during times of extreme stress. Sharing your feelings will help you feel better about your reactions.
The second step is to remember to take time off from your responsibilities. Remember to plan little (half-hour) vacations for yourself to relax, have fun, or to do a hobby. They do not have to be taken care of so quickly that you cannot take a half hour off and enjoy yourself.
Third, pay attention to your health. A healthy diet, adequate sleep, and exercise will help your emotional life tremendously. If you are having trouble sleeping, then try practicing relaxation exercises by picturing yourself on a perfect vacation and really enjoying yourself (or whatever relaxation experience works for you).
Fourth, remember that it is okay to take time to cry. Crying is a normal human reaction to loss and it is a stress reliever.
Fifth, tend to your children's emotional needs. Talk with your children and ask about their feelings. Reassure them that you are all safe and together. Give them extra hugs and watch for unusual behaviors that may be signs that more assistance is needed.
If you are having trouble that does not seem to be going away, then contact a mental health professional or 1-800-THERAPIST for a consultation.
Dr. Kevin Grold
as of April 30, 2003
General Information Zone Soul's Self-Help