A borderline writes:
"I've been trying to help a friend of mine
but I think I'm making matters worse instead of
better - since I still don't understand
co-dependency maybe you can help me? Can
you explain, to me, the difference between
enabling and helping somebody?
This problem I'm having really messes with
my own self-esteem. I beat myself up when things
go badly for others. If I have anything to do
with their hardship I'm especially hard on myself.
Then I neglect my own needs and I start coming apart."
-- Brooks