Enabling Versus Helping


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The difference between helping and enabling is explored. I talk about how this applies to those with Borderline Personality Disorder and the reality that enabling is a feature of co-dependence.


A borderline writes:


"I've been trying to help a friend of mine but I think I'm making matters worse instead of better - since I still don't understand co-dependency maybe you can help me? Can you explain, to me, the difference between enabling and helping somebody?

This problem I'm having really messes with my own self-esteem. I beat myself up when things go badly for others. If I have anything to do with their hardship I'm especially hard on myself. Then I neglect my own needs and I start coming apart." -- Brooks

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